Why Many Highly Sensitive Men Feel Like Aliens

Over the years I’ve connected with men from all around the world, and one of the most common phrases I’ve heard amongst sensitive men is that they often feel like aliens.

Rather it’s from their abilities to effortlessly pick up subtle cues in the environment (that aren’t connected to the five senses), or how deeply they feel the emotions of others (without even communicating to them), many have shared that they oftentimes also feel very lonely.

They can be so used to spending time with themselves, that when it comes to trusting others (particularly men), they notice an inner tug of war.

A part of them has a deep desire to build connections and community with other men, while another part of them may feel afraid of opening up or truly sharing themselves with others.

This tug usually reaches a climax in either one or two ways:

1.     When they finally realize that they’re tired of navigating through life completely alone (intentionally choosing to insert themselves into some form of 1:1 or community support)

Or

2.     They already have a community or small handful of friends whom they feel comfortable in confiding in (but it’s usually comprised of all women), and they notice a deep part inside of them desires to form a depth of real connections with other likeminded men

However, once either of these points are reached, their proverbial ‘stuff’ comes up around trust.

Is there another man or community whom I can trust, and truly feel both safe and seen in?

What if open myself up and end up hurt again (like many sensitive men may have experienced from their fathers)?

Or what if I still feel like an ‘alien’ or that I don’t belong within a community (which inevitably may be a tough pill to swallow, if they indeed opened themselves up to the possibility of truly being a part of one in the first place)?

These are questions I’ve not only heard, but have also personally experienced within my own journey of opening myself up to being a part of different particular men’s communities.

While there’s nothing innately wrong with the aforementioned self-reflective questions above, the language and wording of them can unconsciously create a sense of contraction (or closing off in the body).

What I’ve learned in my personal experience, is that the outcome of a question is more conducive, when the actual question in itself is coming from a place of self-empowerment (rather than fear).

As an example, what would be created in one’s experience, if the language of said questions was this instead:

1.     What would I be able to create in my life, surrounded by another man or men whom I feel completely seen, heard, and can trust?

2.     How would unapologetically opening myself up not only effect my personal and professional life, but also the lives of others throughout the world?

3.     How much inner clarity and growth could I experience by being in a community of other likeminded souls who experience the world very similar to me?

Do you notice a subtle difference of how those questions feel within the body, as opposed to the earlier ones?

That’s the power of asking questions that are rooted from a higher place of love, rather than those that are coming from a smaller and more limited place of fear.

Are you a man (or woman who’s in a relationship with one) who can relate to this?

If so, I invite you to check out my latest video above, where I go more in depth as to why many highly sensitive men may feel like an alien, and despite this, how to create a whole new ‘innerstanding’ and relationship to introversion, sensitivity, and empowered trust in ones authentic self around it.

With Love,

Brandon  

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P.S. - If you’re a highly driven, introverted or sensitive man who is tired of going at it alone and interested in receiving 1:1 intentional support (to uncover potential blindspots that may be holding you back from living the life that you deep down know that you ultimately want), then I’d invite you to apply to set up a complimentary clarity call with me. As it may be just what you need at this time, in order to truly move past paralysis analysis and step into the life of your dreams.