The Power of Semen Retention: My Personal Story
Are you retaining your semen?
If that sounds pretty straightforward, it does because it is.
One of the most powerful practices that a man can do is retain his creative life force.
Sperm is the most powerful life force energy that we’ve all been blessed with the possibility of harnessing in this human experience.
Many men (myself previously included) can struggle with porn addiction. It can be one of those taboo subjects that isn’t often talked about due to feelings of shame, guilt, or embarrassment around it.
However, I’d like to open the dialogue up a bit and share why retaining one’s semen can be the most powerful and foundation practice, that a man can embody (plus the changes you can expect if you give it a try for yourselves).
I’d like to start with a list of the most notable benefits in my own personal experience, plus some relative books that you can read into if you’d like to go a bit further into the science or philosophy behind it.
1. Deeper voice
2. Clear and vibrant skin
3. Enhanced focus
4. Higher levels of creativity
5. Improved health and vitality (leading to much higher levels of energy)
6. Enhanced depth and intimacy within one’s intimate relationships (no more turning your back on or feeling disconnected from your partner post orgasm)
7. Improved sleep
8. Enhanced personal magnetism
While there’s many others one can expect, these are some of the primary ones that I’ve personally experienced since choosing to adopt this as a lifestyle.
Retaining semen is talked about in many many ancient text and religions all around the world.
The Chinese called it ‘qi.’ (from the Taoist tradition)
The India Yogis called it ‘shukra.’ (which mean’s pure, bright, and radiant in the Ayurveda tradition)
It’s also thoroughly described in one of the highest selling books of all-time in “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill (check out Chapter 11 ‘The Mystery of Sexual Transmutation’).
However it’s also described at length in Mantak Chia’s “Awaken Healing Energy Through the Tao: The Taoist Secret of Circulating Internal Power.”
This is a subject that I’ve never openly discussed or written about before, but I feel it’s so paramount to enhancing all areas of one’s life, that it’s truly necessary to lay it as a foundation as a man.
Great creators like Nikola Tesla, Albert Einstein, and Steve Jobs, all intentionally chose to retain their semen, and channel their extremely high levels of creativity towards their professional work and purpose.
A lot of men are not only taught how powerful sexual energy is, but also the important necessity of cultivating it in order to truly live a life of tapping into the highest levels of one’s spiritual and creative powers.
Growing up, I was just like many other boys.
I remember watching porn for the first time when I was 9 years old (you can read more of “What I Learned after Giving Up Porn” here).
I couldn’t explain exactly what was going on, but I knew it created an unforgettable ‘excitement’ in my lower region.
This then cultivated to an unconscious habit of masturbating all the way from my early elementary years, up until my mid 20s.
I would frequently watch porn whenever I had the chance to do so without being interrupted or disturbed.
What originally started as an excitable pleasure, turned into an unrelenting addictive daily habit.
I didn’t think anything too negative of it for most of my life, as I really enjoyed the ‘variety’ of options that porn provided for me to electronically be with.
However back towards the end of 2013, I found myself in a pretty dark place where I knew I needed to make some drastic changes in my life.
I was drinking heavily, going out every weekend, fooling around with many different women, and though on the outside I looked to be happy, beneath it I was wearing a mask to cover the depression I was feeling.
I had read a couple books around being a PUA (pick-up artists) and became obsessed with ‘gaming’ (chasing women).
I had an abundance of different strategies and inauthentic ways of communicating, in order to steer nearly every interaction that I had to what it was that “I” wanted (which inevitably was very manipulative and solely focused on the physical act of fooling around).
After many months of this behavior, in combination with the drinking and nightlife scene, I reached a boiling point when I was arrested for a public intoxication.
I was out of town at the time hosting a couple friends at my college alma mater.
I won’t go into the full details here, however in the coming weeks I’ll be posting another blog entitled “How Getting Arrested Saved My Life,” (if you’d like to be one of the first to receive it, you can sign up for my newsletter at the bottom of the linked page).
I’m not gonna lie to you though, I originally wrote the prior blog nearly three years ago, but due to fear and self-judgement, held myself back from putting it out there.
I told myself that it was almost ten years ago, and I’m in a completely different state of mind and place within my life since then.
However, at the same time, I also ‘knew’ within every fiber and cell of my being, that I’m here on this planet to authentically share what I’ve learned (including not only the good, but also the perceived bad and ugly experiences too).
This inner ‘knowingness’ has led me to share intimate details around my previous battle of addiction in “What I Learned After Giving Up Porn”, the story around my resignation from my six-figure corporate career with the #1 valued sports franchise in the world in “Why I Left My Dream Job,” and some of the most personally vulnerable details in my relationship I’ve ever shared about myself in “Why I Joined a Men's Group.”
For a period of time I even told myself that it wasn’t fair to my partner and what others may think of her, as a reflection of me and my past (inevitably creating another story or layer of self-judgement).
However, one of the aspects that I’ve learned the most in my journey of life to this point, is that if something is showing up deeply within my heart that desires to be expressed, then I’m doing myself and ultimately the planet a disservice if I hold myself back from sharing it.
What I’m sharing here is something I’ve openly shared with my private 1:1 coaching clients as well as within my men’s group, however, I’ve intentionally decided to invite myself to go even deeper, creating an opportunity of being even more fully ‘seen.’
Needless to say, the public intoxication event really woke me up.
It was the catalyst for me in deciding to ‘let go’ of all alcohol, sex, and night life for about a period of nearly six months.
It was around this time that I also came across Gary Wilson’s Tedx Talk, “The Great Porn Experiment” which highlighted the not so healthy changes that prolonged porn addiction does to the brain and ones dopamine receptors.
The short version is that it can create such strong neural connections to a variety of virtual pleasures on screen, that when the ‘real’ thing is in front of you, you may become incapable of being aroused by the ‘real’ thing.
I can relate to this first hand as I remember strongly experiencing different bouts of impotence and erectile dysfunction myself, in as early as my college years.
I thought there was something wrong with me, and my ego wouldn’t allow me to divulge or share what was going on with my friends at the time.
I remember thinking of myself as a “failure” for not being able to hold an erection frequently, thinking I was the only guy on the planet in his 20s who was having this issue.
Watching Gary’s Ted Talk really opened my eyes up to the fact that there were countless other men (maybe even in the millions) who were experiencing the same issues (and how porn could unconsciously be the culprit).
So back to this period of time of no sex, alcohol, clubbing, or masturbation.
At this point in time, I did it for 5 months straight.
I read more books during that period of time than I’ve ever read in my life, I had more energy during my exercises, I showed up completely different at my profession (selling nearly double than I had the previous year), and I was so focused and locked in when it came to growing in all areas of my life, that I truly felt like Superman.
This was the first time I had intentionally done something like that.
I was operating in a completely different way.
As I mentioned above, this didn’t last forever (as I began dating shortly after this period and certain ‘behaviors’ gradually returned).
However, that period did spark a light underneath me.
It opened my eyes and mind to possibilities that I previously had no awareness as to even existing.
One aspect that became clear as day to me during that period was the importance of being authentic and doing what I truly loved (which I identify as the different aspects that give you a great sense of energy and expansion).
Some of those for me then were:
- Listening/dancing to deep house music
- Writing (though at that time it was only in a journal)
- Learning about nutrition and optimization of the mind and body
- Rediscovering myself and the aspects that professionally would create more inner peace and excitement in my life
- Recognizing the importance of surrounding myself with others who were likeminded and passionate about personal, professional, and spiritual growth
One of the unexpected aspects that came up for me during this period as well, was within my profession.
I recognized that even though I was in a successful corporate career and making a healthy six-figure income, I no longer desired to be doing the work that I was. You can read more of this here at “How to Exit Corporate America and Create Professional Freedom”).
After resigning and ‘re-creating’ myself, I vastly reduced my inner circle to those who harbored similar values as to mine (pertaining towards a drive for self-actualization and living an authentic life).
Those that also encompassed living a purposeful, loving, connected, and growth-oriented life where they live all out and create an impact in the world (that is much greater than themselves).
Fast forward to where I stand before you today and I’m present with the following:
- Living abroad in the beautiful lush and green mountains of Costa Rica
- Working completely online where I have the honor of supporting clients all around the world (including but not limited to USA, Germany, Luxembourg, Spain, France, London, and South Africa)
- I’m eating tropical fruits from nature each and every day (I absolutely love this)
- I’m in a loving union with my Life Partner, who is also connected to her purpose 💜
- I live a more simplistic and minimal lifestyle, which has created an even higher vortex of focused energy (I sold all of my belongings except one piece of luggage + a backpack prior to moving abroad)
- I’m learning and cultivating how to speak Spanish fluently (which has been an intention of mine since as early as high school – now I have the opportunity to be nearly fully immersed in the language for the 1st time though)
- And I’m deeply connected to nature each and every day (here’s a view from my outside office, where I presently wrote this)
In my honest opinion, though these aren’t all the beautiful aspects I feel fortunate to have created within my life (much love and appreciation to the God/universe/ or creator of your experience), I don’t believe they would have been possible by not being focused and channeling my energy towards what truly brings me peace, love, and joy.
I’ve found the clarity around these aspects can come even easier to discern when one is retaining their seed.
By retaining your seed, you tap into a superpower that can only be felt through the experience of actually doing it.
The beautiful part is that it can also be done with one’s partner in a loving and committed relationship too.
There is the possibility of having a non-ejaculatory orgasm, an orgasm that energizes you and doesn’t require releasing your semen outwardly. This is talked about in the Mantak Chia book I Iinked above.
This is referred to as tantra, a practice that was created over 5000 years ago in the ancient Indian religion by the name of Hinduism.
However, if you’re in an intimate relationship and would like to experiment with it with your partner then I’d recommend checking out the very easy to digest book called “Cupids Poison Arrow” by Marnia Robinson.”
The short version of the book is that it goes into details on how to cultivate loving sexual energy between two people in the act of sex, but rather than both partners releasing (or having orgasms), being able to learning how to slowly and mindfully build the energy between two people.
The book also goes into the scientific research of how the release of an orgasm, can create the same amount of dopamine receptors in the brain, as someone shooting up heroin.
If you often feel exhausted, tired, lethargic, or distant from your partner after sex (or in the following days of it), I’d recommend giving this book a read to learn the “why” behind it, potentially gaining a new awareness that can create the possibility of enhancing every cell, trajectory, and direction of your life.
Lastly, if you feel a deep connection to this in your life and are in a place where you desire receive uplifting support and accountability on your path of elevating to your next level, click here to apply to speak with me directly around the possibility of working with one another.
With Love
Brandon